So as a general rule in my relationship, my wife will ask me to help her with something while I am doing something else. When those requests require urgent attention (e.g. she is in a precarious position/needs obvious immediate help) I drop what I am doing to help as any good person should do. I’m 100% fine with that.
But.
She also expects immediate action on my part for non-urgent/time sensitive issues where she asks for my help even if I am doing something else (imo whatever other things I’m doing don’t matter). Even if I confirm I will help with whatever it is when I finish what I am doing, she gets very angry/combative that I don’t drop what I am doing to help. To be clear, often whatever I am doing is not urgent either but to me I feel like I should be able to complete what I am doing first unless it’s a time sensitive/urgent request. Am I wrong?
Edit: So I’ve seen quite a few people asking for more context, etc.
I’ll give a few scenarios:
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She wants help cleaning up the house and I’m playing video games. In this situation, I get it and will stop immediately unless I’m in an online ranked match in which case I will try to finish but still get heat for that
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She wants me to bring her something or take something to another room when I am reading something. (The take something into another room particularly bugs me when she is standing right next to me and can easily do it herself and it’s something she is responsible for. If it’s something I left out or whatever, thata different but isn’t an immediate ‘do now’ thing necessarily)
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She wants me to get the dogs a treat or something while I am cooking (specifically stuff that will get my hands dirty forcing me to wash them again to resume cooking)
In every situation I try to let her know that I will do whatever she is asking once I am finished with what I am doing (e.g. give me 5-10 minutes) or if it is something she can/should do, I’ll let her know that which sets her more off
