My (F32) father (56) lives with me. After my mom passed away a few years ago he had trouble dealing with life and I tried to help him out. I had a spare room and I said he could stay there. My siblings are I cleaned up my parents’house and we rented it out. With his 100% agreement.
The money covers the mortgage and let’s him contribute to my household budget for food and utilities. And he has a little money every month so he doesn’t have to go into his savings or retirement funds.
He could go back to work but he hasn’t. I’m not a mental health professional but he won’t go to one either. I think he is just depressed but I cannot make that diagnosis.
I work from home at only occasionally meet clients for lunch or at their workplace. So my car usually sits for days on end.
My father got the idea that I didn’t really need a car for myself and when my aunt’s car broke down he started letting her borrow mine. Without my permission. I told him that if he wants to lend out a car he should lend out his. He drives a very nice full size truck. He says that my aunt is uncomfortable driving it. I said that I didn’t care and that I needed my vehicle to be available. He said that family helps family. I said my car was mine and not to be lent out. I spoke with my aunt and told her to stop asking for my car.
He decided to test my patience. He trapped me in the garage with his truck and left the house one day that he knew I had a meeting. I had to Uber to the meeting. I was almost late. I was absolutely livid. When I got home his car was still there but my car was gone. My aunt had needed it for appointments.
I told him that it’s time for him to move out. He isn’t just inconveniencing me now. He is actively sabotaging my job. He cried that he was sorry and wouldn’t do it again. I gave him one last chance.
There were no problems until yesterday. He lent out my car so my aunt could visit her kid. He had had a key made. I saw that my car was missing and I did not even ask. I called and reported it stolen.
My car has a tracker in it because it’s not paid off. It was easy to find. I, in the meantime, had turned off my phone and gone shopping. I was unavailable when everyone started calling me to tell the cops that my aunt has my permission to take my car.
I feel bad for wasting the cops time and my family says my aunt was traumatized. My dad is moving in with her now.
I did drop the charges and clear everything up. But my family is still mad at me. I am mostly mad at my father but my aunt bore the brunt.
