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You are not alone. Online forums like this one are a great way to have anonymity and support if there isn’t someone in your life to talk to. It is ok to put yourself and the life YOU want as a priority.
~From a kind supporter in Nevada
I recently had an abortion because I knew my mind and body couldn’t cope with another baby and I didn’t trust my partner would have supported me adequately financially in order to be able to do so. I made the decision to protect myself. Trust yourself first and foremost. I felt shame and guilt due to societal feelings about abortion and, indeed, I’ve felt very much alone in the process. I am now focusing on being grateful for the one child I already have and giving him all of the love I can. Whatever the reason for the decision you made, it was the right one for you.
~From a kind supporter in the UK
Hello everyone. I’m writing now after taking the pill for the third time. It was a decision to protect myself, and therefore my children. I didn’t feel capable of another pregnancy. My health is the most important thing for raising my beloved children. I know I’m not alone; you’re all here, and we hold each other’s hands. You’re not alone! We share the same experience. Those who haven’t been through it can’t understand, just like a full-term pregnancy. They’re both biological and spiritual experiences that help us progress along the path, and grow. Feel loved and cared for.
~ From a kind supporter, location not given
Trust your judgement. You made this decision because its the right one for you. Maybe it’s not the right time, the right person. Whatever reason, there is a reason. And you made it. Be kind to yourself. Believe in yourself. Trust yourself!
~ From an anonymous supporter
I’ve had two abortions. I know how you feel, and I’m holding your hand. Everything will be okay. Perhaps these souls wanted to teach us something: compassion and empathy for other women going through the same experience, as countless women have done since the dawn of time.
~From a kind supporter in Germany
You are worthy. We are worthy. Having an abortion doesn’t make you less than. It doesn’t make you irresponsible or a bad person. We all deserve access to this care. It’s healthcare. We deserve to have children when and if we are ready and children deserve parents that are ready. Stop listening to society telling you you are bad or you are wrong. You are strong for doing what you knew was best for you and your situation. So much love.
~From a kind supporter in New Mexico
To women in similar journeys, you are not alone, forgiveness is free and you are deserving of love and understanding.
~ A kind supporter, location not given
There is an incredible life after making this decision. It is tough. It is not easy. You may feel all sorts of emotions from grief to sadness to maybe even relief. It came, it doesnt get destroyed or feel any pain. It just is. It also knows that you would never have done anything to hurt or harm it, you just needed to do this for you. That is not selfish, in fact it may have also been selfless because you truly tried but realised you couldnt. You are loved. You are strong and you will continue. Somday you may even grow to finally have bubba and then all of this will be in the rear view mirror, maybe to only be visited when another yound soul asks for your advice. Take good care of your health, be supportive and kind of yourself, love yourself deeply. Be strong my dear friend.
~ A kind supporter in India
It’s okay to feel every emotion imaginable. You’re genuinely not alone and lean on other people when you need to. Your story is your own and everything you have to say about it and your feelings are so so valid. Surround yourself with the people that love you and give yourself grace while trying to get through this.
~ A kind supporter in Michigan
You did what was right for you at the time. Your heart was pure and your heart was broken in a million pieces. You are a beautiful person with a big beautiful heart that deserves all the love and compassion in the world . You are so loved 💕
~A kind supporter in Ireland
Be gentle and kind to yourself.LOVE YOURSELF.Grieve.Pray, meditate or do what serves YOU.This CHOICE is about YOU, no one else.It’s YOUR BODY, no one else’s.YOU ARE LOVED. I am you, you are ME.I SUPPORT YOU.Pick your head up, brighter days are coming.As you cry, feel angry, frustrated, confused just know it will slowly get better. I LOVE YOU.- a vessel in this journey of life
~ A kind supporter in Arizona, US
A very kind doctor told me that having abortions doesn’t make you evil, it makes you human. Learning to love yourself helps.
~A kind supporter in the US
You are strong, you are loved, you are powerful, you are beautiful. I am so proud of you.
~ A Kind Supporter in Ohio, US
Remember you’re allowed to grieve. You’re allowed to feel a loss and your emotions and feelings are valid. You are loved. Please take time with yourself and remember you are not alone.
~ A Kind Supporter in the UK
To long for someone you’ve never met is an indescribable pain. To love, to feel so deeply for something, someone that was outside of your reach. It is an indescribable feeling to know what it feels like to carry something within you. To feel a motherly instinct without a child. It was all at once that I learned a mother’s grief as quickly as I learned a mother’s love. It is ok to feel sadness, to feel pain, to feel guilt. Feel it all. Feel it deeply, acknowledge its existence and let it push you forward. Allow it to make you restless to see the world, to go after your dreams, your future. Grief is not linear. There is no timeline, there is no right or wrong. I had an abortion. It is something that I have never said out loud to anyone apart my partner, but it is part of all of our stories. It was not an easy way out. It was heartbreaking but it is not selfish. I love you all.
~ A kind supporter in the U.S.
Don’t feel bad, you’re not alone and you didn’t do it out of spite but out of love. Be kind to yourself.
~ A kind supporter in Spain
You are not alone and it’s nice to know that as well it gives great comfort in such an awful time. Abortion is never easy and we sway from one decision to the next but ultimately we choose abortion because we don’t see a way that it will work for us or the life of a baby in our current situation. But that’s us thinking of that life as well and what it would have.
~ A kind supporter, location not given
We are so loved. Every one of us. ~ A kind supporter in Connecticut
Its ok to feel the way you do, ride the waves of the ups and downs. For some of you it will be an immediately easy decision and for others the most difficult decision you will make. I have experienced both, but you need to remember you are the ultimate decider, and whilst some people will try to manipulate or even persuade you into doing differently, this is ultimately your decision and you have to live with either decision you make, so be 100% on your decision. Don’t go with other peoples’. It’s ok to seek support but also define clear boundaries — that is what you need, and not judgment, advice or anything you do not need.
~ A kind supporter in the United Kingdom
Your life matters. Not everyone wants the same thing and do not feel guilty for choosing what you need.
~ A kind supporter in Australia
It’s okay to feel what you feel. You can be sad, confused, relieved, or upset. Your emotions can go up and down — it’s normal. You chose what was best for you and baby. No matter what you were going to pick, there is always gonna be that ‘what if.’ Grief is normal. Don’t put too much on yourself for the decision you made. It’s okay, you picked what was best for you and baby, you will meet again at a better and more stable stage in your life. It’s okay.
~ A kind supporter in California
The abortion is one of the most challenging decisions a woman can make. Please be kind and take care of yourself. You are not alone. I hope my story serves as support for you, the same way other women stories have provided support to me.
~ A kind supporter in the U.S.
To everyone who shares their story, to everyone who shares words of kindness — Thank you so much for making my brain melt a little less. Abortion is not only health care, it’s a form of birth control. And while it can be an arduous and stressful process —without the stigma, even — I very much appreciate that we can be more conversational and even light-hearted on the topic. Some things in life you just need to laugh off, then live on. Abortion is very much one of those things. Much love. 🙂
~ A kind supporter. location not given
You’re not alone, you’re allowed to feel every emotion you’re feeling. You’re allowed to mourn and grieve. You’re allowed to be frustrated it happened again, but don’t let anyone tell you that you’re not allowed to have another abortion.
~ A kind supporter in Massachusettes
No person who has an abortion should feel guilty or alone, the abortion process is already a very difficult thing to go through. I hope everyone can have the right to choose and not feel guilty about it.
~ A kind supporter in Brazil
I honor and I recognise the diversity of lived experiences people bring to their abortion stories. My own abortion story matures and changes with time, giving me new wisdom at every turn. One thing I know for sure is that abortions are responsible, kind, thoughtful, and loving. Everyone deserves access to the reproductive care they want and/or need. I love people who have abortions with all my heart.
~ A kind supporter in Pennsylvania
You’re not alone. I love you soo much. You did the best you could with the knowledge and resources you had at the time. You are not a bad person. You are a complete human being that deserves to live life with joy. Smile because you’re beautiful and worthy. <hugs>
~ A kind supporter in New York
You are so loved. You are the epitome of strength and selflessness. The decision that you courageously made is not selfish, it is the complete opposite. This decision is your way of caring for yourself and your child, to provide you both with the best possible outcomes. That is selflessness, that is strength — to honour the painful conclusion that this is the best decision for you both. It is okay to grieve and feel relief at the same time, and it is also okay to feel one without the other — everything you are feeling is valid. Please be gentle and kind to yourself. If you are reading this right now please look at yourself in the mirror and say: I am loved, I am not alone, I made the right decision, I am strong, and I will heal. <3
~ A kind supporter in Canada
I write this to you, sitting next to you. Going through this with you. You are loved. You are worthy and deserving of love. Your choice is not just for you, but for the being you are sending back to the heavens. You are doing what is best for you and them. You may question that, you may walkways wonder what if- or even count how old they would be… but know God is thankful you made the best choice for the both of you.
~ A kind supporter in New Jersey
I love you. Be gentle with yourself.
You are making the right choice! Do what’s best for you now and your future. Hold your head high. I love you. I share your pain of this decision and hold you in my heart. You are not alone. You are a loving person.
~ A kind supporter in Canada
Your life is your choice and NO ONE can judge you for those decisions. Even if you believe in God, God gave us this option. God forgives all and God understands.
~ A kind supporter, location not given
You’re never alone. You’re valid. You matter. And it is always your choice.
~ A kind supporter in the U.S.
Despite how anyone around you feels, even if it’s the father, your judgement is and always will be correct. Trust yourself. Love yourself. It will be okay. And we will get through this together. 💓
~ A kind supporter in Georgia, US.
You made this choice due to your own circumstance/s, experience/s in life, mental state, support or lack of, belief/s or whatever reason and it is and was yours to make; not anyone else’s. So remember to be proud of who you are and stand with your head high for making the best decision you could. Even if you only made the decision because you felt you were not supported, that doesn’t make it wrong, just maybe sad (if thats how you felt) but it doesn’t mean you should feel bad. I just wish you love and self acceptance and all of you to feel at peace. This is your life to live, your life to make choices good, bad, ugly. We are human, not machines. Every minute is precious with no guarantee of the next. We do our best. That’s what counts. We are works in progress and I wish you all warmth and love.
~A kind supporter in the UK
Whatever your reason is, you are valid. You don’t even have to have a reason. There is nothing selfish about not wanting to carry a pregnancy to term knowing you don’t want to. You deserve to live your life.
~A kind supporter in Canada
We all did it for our own reasons. The point in having kids is to try and create the kindest version of these little humans, love them, guide them, and we felt we just weren’t ready to do that and that’s ok. Because it’s a huge responsibility. We just have to take it day by day and just breathe. Most importantly we have to trust our instincts were correct. Love yourself because you deserve it. I love every single person who isn’t feeling good enough just TRY and feel the love. Think of better days and think of days that you’re going to feel your best. Think of the things you can accomplish while you’re still on this earth.
~ A kind supporter in Nevada
You are not alone even when you feel like you are. You made the best decision for you regardless if you have children currently or not. Us as young women and women in general, we matter. Our health physically and mentally matters. Don’t forget that.
~ A kind supporter in California
You are worthy and there is nothing wrong with you for wanting to go through with having an abortion.
~ A kind supporter in the Pacific Northwest, U.S.
You are worthy of love. Worthy of understanding. Deserving of anything good this world has to offer. You deserve to be seen and heard. Your life is important. You made an impossible decision that required selflessness, despite what others may think. You are light and love.
~ A kind supporter in Delaware
If you’re looking for answers and came across this page it does help, it helps heal, and helps comfort if you’re feeling alone in your decision. Abortion isn’t black and white. There’s so much gray area. It’s okay to feel sadness and loss. It’s okay to have made the decision for the best interest of yourself or you and your family. Remember that when guilt or sadness comes creeping up. You made the decision based off what your life currently was at the time. You did what you thought was best. Let the sadness come and let it move through you.
~ A kind supporter in Colorado
You’re not alone. We’re all in this together on this page.
~ A kind friend in Florida
I send love and support to anyone who has had an abortion for whatever reason. No-one needs to know your personal reasons for making the decision and remember to always put yourself first, no matter how hard it may feel.
~ A kind friend in the U.K.
Abortion is never easy, people who think it’s an easy way out have clearly never had one. Love yourself and trust in your judgment at the time.
~ A kind friend in Australia
Abortion is an act of kindness, every child deserves the best life and if you don’t feel you can provide that then that’s enough to make this decision. You’re strong and you can make this choice without guilt or shame.
~A kind friend in the United Kingdom
You do not need to carry any shame! Set that sh*t down. This is your body, your choice, your life and you are in the driver’s seat. Nobody else ❤️
~ A kind friend North of Ireland
I love you, and I see you. If you feel alone, know that I am thinking of you, and have been there myself. Don’t forget that perspective shifts, and the world continues to reveal more truth and beauty each day. Sometimes, it’s okay to just survive. Hang in there, and trust that there are brighter days ahead, even if it seems impossible to imagine right now.
~ A kind friend in Texas, U.S.
This decision doesn’t always come lightly but know that you are doing this for you. You are the person who is living, breathing, feeling. You are the person with memories and goals for the future. You have lived an experienced life thus far and you know what’s best for you. Regardless of how many, abortion is your right to continue living the life you feel most comfortable living. You are doing the right thing. You will recover and you are loved.
~ A kind friend in Scotland
Be kind to yourself. You did and are doing what you need to do. You deserve to be happy.
~Jennifer in Florida
Do what’s best for YOU.
~A kind supporter in Pennsylvania
Only you know what is good for you. Own your truth.
~A kind supporter in South Africa
Trust yourself, be gentle to yourself. No one takes this decision lightly, it is important but also right for you.
~ A kind supporter in France
This is for my friend, and all other women who have or are facing this decision, be it your first or your forth.
You have the right to choose. You have the right to put yourself first. You have the right to question what’s in the best interest for your situation. You have the right to feel, and grieve. Even if you made that choice, it’s ok to still cry for them.
Trust in your choice and know that it doesn’t define who you are as a person. You are still loved and capable of love. You are still whole, and you still have so much wonder to bring into this world.
Make your future count. I admire your courage and strength. Sending big supportive hugs. You will never walk alone. Xxx
~ Beckie in Liverpool, United Kingdom
Do not feel ashamed for the choices that you make. This platform has helped me tremendously, I respect tose who are brave enough to share their story. Thank you.
~ A kind supporter in the United Kingdom.
First of all, thank you for this website! Secondly, I just wanted to posit that abortion is and should be a form of guilt-free birth control like any other. I obviously wouldn’t go as far to say that every woman should have an abortion, but I’ll admit that my enthusiasm against the stigma sometimes leads me to that thought. It’s more than just ‘My Body, My Choice’. It’s a celebration of fertility, and it’s a great one at that, as odd as that may seem for many. Also, I’m pregnant! Twelve weeks. As you may have guessed, I’m aborting it, and this will be my fourth! God Bless all of you out there having abortions, and thank you again for being you. There’s no such thing as a bad reason to have an ‘a-word’. Sorry, abortion. 🙂
~ A kind supporter in Canada
I support women’s reproductive rights. Sending good vibes.
~ A kind supporter in Georgia, US.
July 15, 2015 is when I had an abortion. I was a naïve 19 year old college student who accidentally became pregnant. I planned on keeping it, letting my naïve self believe it was no big deal, but I changed my mind at 13 weeks. At the time I believed it was the worst decision I ever made.
6 years later and my abortion is now one of the greatest decisions I ever made. That decision made me the paramedic I am today, working for an ambulance crew in Washington State, and currently in training on joining a Mountain Rescue Team. If I decided on keeping that pregnancy I probably would have dropped out of college and be working at Taco Bell right now. I would love to see a pro-life protestor argue in favor of that!
(((HUGS))) to all the beautiful women who have had 2+ abortions. You are loved, you are cherished, and each and every one of you are the greatest of decision makers. And NEVER let regret became part of your life, instead keep your eyes forward and aim for what’s ahead.
I hope my brief story shows you that the choices that you made will only make your life healthier and stronger. I am a 25 year old sexually active female, and who knows, I could be joining your group one day.
~ A Beautiful Kind Friend in Washington, US.
Abortions are life, abortions are love, abortions are pain – abortions are so many things, but they should NEVER be stigmatized or criminalized. To everyone who’s ever had or will ever seek an abortion: you are 100% doing what you know is right for your current situation. Remember that you are not alone, as thousands of pregnant people throughout the generations of history have gone through what you are going through.We are strong and together we will build a future that recognizes this strength.
~ A friend in Berlin, Germany
I offer these words of encouragement to people who have had abortions: You are the experts of your body and your life. You should make the right choice for you! Always remember that abortion is health care. No matter how many abortions you had, can not change that! What I have found out is that “people who have had abortions are holy!”
~ Kiconco Grace Barbara of TURGET Uganda in Kampala, Uganda
Abortions are a health right. Women need not be judged or condemned for exercising our rights to bodily autonomy. I support all my Sisters to heal from stigma related to abortions ,and encourage us all to move bravely into the future feeling powerful.
~ Omodele Ibitoye of IRISE in Nigeria
Access to abortion services should be women choice with no limitations. Abortion is a right which has no barriers.
~ Peter Fongeh, Vision in Action in Cameroon
Safe abortions care should be handled as any other medical procedure to save so many mothers. Let us know that it’s their rights. Reproductive health rights should be provided to us all for a better world we all deserve.
~ Muhoozi Oscar from Kampala, Uganda
Que l’avortement soit reconnu comme composant des droits humains et reconnu comme tel. La réussite des OD — objectifs de développement durable — recoure du respect des droits humains dont la dépénalisation de l’avortement dans le monde. Personne ne doit rester dernier d’ici 2030. Avortement sans risque dans le monde, Yes.
That abortion be recognized as a component of human rights and recognized as such. The success of the SDGs — sustainable development goals — is based on respect for human rights, including the decriminalization of abortion worldwide. No one should stay last until 2030. Safe Abortion Worldwide, Yes.
~ Jean Nkeshimana from Bujumbura, Burundi
